It’s a Wrap, (March and) April!

For the first time ever, I’m writing a combined update on my two-month hiatus on the blog today. I know I said that I try to show up here at least once a month, but March had been so hectic that letting it fall right through the cracks was probably the most sane decision at the time. Man, has it really been 50+ days since I last published a blog post?

Let’s Address the Elephant in the Room 🐘

I’m not pregnant (at least, not yet.) Most of my friends are probably disappointed by this; unfortunately, I’m not trying to pull off a Kylie Jenner move. Truth is, Roan and I quit our jobs simultaneously in March. I’m deliberately putting emphasis on that statement for the sake of those who only came here to find out why I’ve been MIA. If you’ve been one of those genuinely concerned, and are willing to hear more about it, then keep on reading.

Roan and I decided to leave the company we both worked for due to personal and professional reasons. Without giving out too much details, our decision was greatly influenced by several factors, but most importantly by our direct supervisor’s unprofessionalism. We take our jobs and the people we work with seriously, and if these aren’t reciprocated in a respectful and professional manner, then staying longer is but a waste of time and resources.

When Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemonade 🍋

Instead of moping around the apartment all day, Roan and I took advantage of the free time we have to get things done. On top of seeking for new job opportunities, Roan immediately scheduled his visits to the doctor at the VA Hospital, which always required requesting some time off from work just to make it to his appointments. I, on the other hand, grabbed the chance to book a slot at the USCIS Office to get an I-551 stamp on my passport since my green card (I-551), as well as my initial extension letter, have expired. If we still had work, then we wouldn’t have honored my mother’s request to prepare a special power of attorney for our family business back home and wouldn’t have had the time to spend a weekend in Pasadena to have it notarized at the Philippine Consulate in LA first thing in the morning.

Adult Onesies Party at Big Bear Weekend, Spring 2018
We take adult onesies party seriously 🙊

We sure made the most out of the time we had in our hands, and even spent every weekend with Roan’s siblings more than we ever had when we were both working. In fact, we just got back from a quick weekend getaway to Big Bear Lake, and it was definitely one for the books! It’s our first time traveling with all four of them (plus my brother-in-law’s fur buddy, Archer), and we’re already planning our next trip this coming Fall!

God is Good All The Time 🙏🏼

Before y’all start feeling bad for us, know that we never failed to believe that all things happen for a reason. God allowed us to make irrational decisions, so He could present us with better opportunities along the way. About three weeks ago, Roan landed a new job at a company similar to our previous one. It’s quite a drive from our current home, but it pays a whole lot more, so it isn’t so bad. Meanwhile, I just accepted an offer last week from a slightly different industry that also pays better, but is closer to where we currently live. I’ve already signed the contract and underwent drug test and background check, so I should be reporting to work very soon.

Not gonna lie—I was an emotional wreck for the first few days following our resignation, especially when the situation started to sink into my head. You know what? Sometimes, something unexpected happens in your life, so you just gotta roll with the punches. Roan and I are so grateful for our families and very few friends (who knew about our situation) for their prayers and emotional support during that slightly bumpy ride of our lives. Most importantly, we’re grateful (and lucky) that we didn’t need to seek any form of financial support from anyone because that would’ve made things worse.

I know I don’t warrant anyone an apology, but know that I didn’t plan on disappearing from the face of the Earth just like that. I simply had to set my priorities straight and social media presence wasn’t one of them. I will say, however, that staying mostly offline for the last couple of weeks had been therapeutic for me. I never thought it was the social media detox I needed until I did.

Now tell me about yourself. What you’ve been up to lately, and what you’re looking forward to in the next few days, weeks, or even months. Or just anything you wish to talk about if we’d sit down and chat over a cup of coffee. Fill me in! I’m all ears. I know it’s been a while.

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  • Hello Jae! It HAS been a while… I actually caught up on your blog posts recently myself, because I haven’t read some people’s blogs in a year (oh no, time flies!!), and things were so busy for me last year! I only bothered to update my social media, but like you, I also couldn’t quite leave my blog forever

    It’s understandable that you and Roan both left your workplace for the reasons you did. It sounds like you handled the situation very well, and I’m sorry to hear that those in management roles were not behaving the way they should have been. I have been in that kind of situation before as well, and it was more uncomfortable and frustrating to stay, so it was best I left. It must have been tough given that you both worked for the same company and had to find something new, but so glad you both did! 🙂

    Staying off social media can be really liberating! I don’t use social media as much as I used to but it’s nice to put it away for some time and enjoy other things in our lives.

    • Heya, Georgie! I understand; you’ve been so busy planning your wedding then! Ugh, I can’t even begin to tell you how horrible everything had gotten at my previous job. We later learned that the management lied about our sudden resignation, and told most of them that we only took some time off. Like, WTH? It was a shock at first, but we eventually learned to accept that it was time to leave, and boy, was it such a relief to be free!

      I’m still not on social a lot these days, and I’m OK with not constantly sharing whatever I’m up to on social media. I think it makes life even more interesting!

  • Oh wow, quitting your job at the same time without a back up would have probably triggered an anxiety attack if I was in your shoes. Good thing that you both found new (and hopefully better) jobs and have gotten the time off to do everything else that ends up in the backburner because of work. 🙂

    • Oh, it did trigger some emotions for me, too, but focusing on getting other things done while looking for new jobs seemed to have done the trick. We were very fortunate to not have to wait too long ’til we found new jobs, and we’re very grateful for that! Thanks, Teesh!

  • It’s a big, and brave, move to walk away from what is no longer serving you. Work is such a big part of our lives and a major stressor – happy for you and Roan to have left if it was so miserable. Definitely doesn’t warrant an apology because everyone needs time and space, no questions asked, from the blogosphere. Wishing you the best in your future endeavors, both personally and professionally.

    • Hi, Alyse! I’m so sorry for the delay of responding to your comment! Anyway, it was really such a MAJOR move, but it was the BEST thing we did with the situation at hand. Thank you so much, and I appreciate your words! P.S. I didn’t realize that you’d moved to Seattle! I hope the Pacific Northwest has been good to you!

  • Good for you guys for walking away from a bad situation. We pour A LOT of effort and time and sweat into our jobs. It’s total crap to not get respect and kudos from superiors and the company in general. I’m glad you guys have been so busy with your time. It sounds like it’s been a blast! That onesie party is hilarious. And CONGRATULATIONS on the new jobs!!!

    • It’s just wasn’t worth it anymore, so we got up and left! We’re grateful for the experience because whatever we’ve learned from that place, we’d apply to our new jobs. Thanks, Louise!

  • Wow, so much going on! Congratulations on the new jobs you guys have landed. And I’m glad that you both have had some good time to enjoy each other, your family/friends, and the places around you! I know that quitting a job is so scary sometimes, but like you, when I left my job in Tustin it just felt so RIGHT to get out of there. You guys knew you were doing the right thing and things are falling into place, just like you knew they would. I’m happy for you guys!

    • Thank you so much, Em! We’re both very lucky that we didn’t have to wait longer to get new jobs. It actually felt like we just took a Spring break like most kids, you know? It’ll be the first time Roan and I will work separately, so it’s going to be a new experience (at least for me).

      Anyway, how’s the momma-to-be doin’? I hope you’ve been having a wonderful pregnancy journey so far!