An Open Letter To My Brother


Dear Brother,

How have you been? I know you’ve been very busy with school nowadays, especially that it’s your last year in college. I take this a good sign knowing you’ve been through a lot in the last couple of weeks. I want to tell you something I’ve been meaning to say since I knew about what happened between you and your [now] ex-girlfriend. I kind of felt betrayed when I found out that I was the last to know, but looking back, I’d say it was the right decision.

Now, let’s cut to the chase. I feel bad that you have experienced your first heartbreak ever, but at the same time, I’m glad you did. Let me explain why. Remember what they used to say about when one door closes, a window opens? That’s true most of the time. You may not admit it, but I knew how devastated you were. Didn’t you know you were the family’s sunshine? How you painstaking share your stories from school is all in a day’s work. Your random singing whether upon waking up, while taking a bath [or even a dump] crack us the hell up. It’s almost magical how you brighten up our day.

Today would have been your second year anniversary as a couple. I knew because you even had your mobile phone number patterned to that date. I know you loved her so much that it came to a point that I had to hit you in the head. No, not literally, but you know what I mean. I had to call your attention because from our point-of-view, what we’re seeing is no longer considered a “healthy relationship”. I don’t know if you’ve realized this now, but you had your world centered in your [now] ex-girlfriend. You were always fidgeting with your mobile phone that talking to you upfront had been an annoying effort. We hardly see nor feel your presence at home because apart from school, you were always out with your girlfriend. Yes, there’s nothing wrong with that, but you’d rather go out with her and her family on a Sunday, too? Seriously? In one of our arguments, I had to emphasize how I managed to decline all invitations from friends especially if these fell on a Sunday because I consider this day our Ultimate Family Day. That’s how I learned to say “no” to friends, and I don’t regret every bit of it.

I have to give it to you, though, that despite my indifference towards your [now] ex-girlfriend, you were never disrespectful of me. I’m sorry that my approach wasn’t always the best one, but I had to do my job as your eldest sister. So where is this leading to? I know it’s difficult. Believe me when I say I do understand how much it hurts because you know I’ve been there. It is okay to hurt, but don’t let heartbreak consume you. Pain makes you stronger. It does, and I’m speaking from personal experience. You may not understand this now, but you will in due time. Most importantly, do not chase people. Work hard, and be you. The right people who belong in your life will come find you and stay. Do your thing.

You are young, and you have a fruitful life ahead of you. Focus on your studies now, and you will reap what you have invested in the near future. You are an amazing person inside and out, and I firmly believe that you will go places with the kind of attitude you have towards your dreams and goals. Know that when all else fails, you have a family to support and accept you. No questions asked.

Let this be a lesson well-learned. Turn this unfortunate event into something more worthy of your time and efforts. There’s no doubt you will meet the next person who would make you fall in love again. I can’t promise to be all open arms with whoever your next girlfriend will be, but I assure you that I will always have your back. After all, that’s what siblings are supposed to do, right? We stand up for each other no matter what. Always know that I love you, and that I am proud of you. Offer your pain, sufferings, and frustrations to God, and He will take care of the rest. You will be fine. I promise.

With love and kisses,

Ate Jae

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