I am probably the last person to talk about what my New Year’s resolutions are, but I don’t mind. I haven’t fully depleted my unread emails nor have I back-read on blogs I missed on Bloglovin’ since my week-long hiatus, so I wouldn’t know that for sure. As I have mentioned before, I’m one of those who are so good at making a list of New Year’s resolutions, then forget about them three weeks later.
Some people may not believe in resolutions, but I don’t hold it against them. To each his own. While I can’t say that I’ve been successful at fulfilling all of the things I listed in the previous years, I think doing so gives me a reason to evaluate and focus on my priorities in life. Speaking of which, I noticed that being married has changed me and my decisions in general. Things haven’t turned a complete 180 just yet, but eventually, I’m going to start putting my husband’s needs before me.
So I came up with a list of resolutions I wish to change in 2015, but somehow thought of tweaking it just a tad bit differently. I asked Roan what his New Year’s resolutions are for me instead. He might have thought it long and hard because it took him a while to respond to my iMessage, and I was slightly amused with his one no-nonsense answer:
I want you to stay the same. Spend more time with me (eat, exercise, sleep) and less mood swings. 😀
My friends, this is the man I married. I’m impressed at how our minds are somewhat intertwined because that’s actually among the things I wish to have less of. I am probably in my worst when I’m throwing a hormonal fit, and I completely understand where Roan’s coming from. It’s worth noting that I am blessed to have a loving husband who tries to put up with my ever-changing mood, but I need to make a conscious effort to avoid having one whether intentional or not. I figured that in order to have a harmonious relationship with anyone, I need to be held accountable for both my words and actions.
On the other hand, learning to be more sensitive is one thing I want more from Roan. I long for that kind of sensitivity that will be beneficial for both of us. Having known Roan since we were 14, it’s easy for him not to give a damn about some things that don’t involve him. He may be geared that way, and may have also been influenced by his former job as a US Army soldier; however, things are different now that he’s married. I don’t want to go into details, but I hope he learns the art of listening to what I’m not saying. Anyone else knows what I mean?
Confession time: I don’t think I have ever come across those who think of their ‘word of/for the year’ before. It’s different from the typical New Year’s resolutions list where a word will serve as a guide in order to achieve one’s specific intentions. Since I’m doing this for the first time, my word for 2015 would be:
I have noticed that each time the new year rings in, most people start doing something they’ve never done before. For some, they simply start over again if at first they didn’t succeed. I have to say that I’m going to be in both situations in 2015. I need to live by this, and follow through everything I’ve started and plan on starting this year.